Your first divorce consultation is a private meeting where you explain your situation and learn what steps may follow. You don’t need to arrive with everything figured out. However, a little preparation helps your attorney understand your circumstances and guide the conversation more effectively.
Gather basic documents and financial details
You don’t need to bring a full binder. A few key items can help your attorney assess your situation:
- Income records such as pay stubs
- List of shared assets and debts
- Court filings or legal notices
- Child-related documents like school schedules or medical records
- Protective orders or police reports
These documents help clarify what’s at stake and highlight any urgent issues. If you’re missing some items, bring what you already have.
Identify your priorities and concerns
Before your consultation, take time to think about what matters most to you. You might be focused on custody, financial stability or personal safety. You don’t need a detailed plan. Having a clear sense of your concerns helps you speak more confidently and stay focused during the meeting.
Understand what courts may consider
California courts review specific factors when making decisions about custody and support. These include:
- Ability of each parent to care for the child.
- Health and safety of the child.
- Emotional ties between the child and each parent.
- History of domestic violence or substance use.
- Financial circumstances of both parents.
For support, courts use a statewide formula that considers income, time spent with the child and other financial details. These factors help determine what serves the child’s best interest. Your attorney needs accurate information to evaluate how these factors may apply. Everything you share stays confidential.
Ask questions and take notes
Divorce is stressful, but preparation can ease the burden. Ask about timelines, costs or what happens next in the process. Write down key points so you can review them later. Speak up if something feels unclear. Your attorney is there to guide you and help you make informed decisions. If you’re still looking for legal support, go for someone who can truly advocate for you.