Children who are journeying through their parents’ divorce might have some negative thoughts about the time when they have to go from one home to the other. This is understandable because they’ve lived in one home with both adults for a long time. As a parent, it is up to you to make this process as painless as possible. Fortunately, there are some methods that might help you to do this.
One thing that is hard for young children is having to wait to be picked up by a parent. It might help them to adjust to the transition better if the parent who currently has custody actually delivers the kids to the parent that’s waiting. This gives the kids the trip over to prepare for the transition.
Another thing that might work is giving your children a calendar with what is going to happen illustrated on it. You might need to do this on a week-by-week basis so that they aren’t shaken up if things have to change. They can use the calendar to mark off the days that they have until they switch houses again so that it becomes a routine.
You also need to ensure that you and your ex aren’t fighting or having contentious talks when you are switching custody. Your parenting plan should set this term so that there is no misunderstanding about what is acceptable at the exchange.
The parenting plan is the backbone of what needs to happen with the children. If you and your ex have disputes, there should be methods outlined in the plan to help you come to a resolution. For many, having to go back to court is a last resort, but it is possible if there is a need for a modification.