Some people who are going through a divorce soon find that they don’t want to be alone. They might try to rush into a new relationship, but this can’t happen too fast or you might make mistakes. The last thing you need after the end of a marriage is to land in another wrong relationship that makes you miserable.
It is a good idea to learn how to be comfortable as a single person so that you aren’t getting into a relationship just so you have someone else there. Another reason to hold off on starting a new relationship is that you can focus on getting the divorce finalized without adding in another person.
Before you decide to date, set your goals for yourself. These should be your personal ones, as well as ones that you have for your finances, career and family. By setting these now, you can ensure that nobody else is influencing your decisions.
You can also take this time to find out what interests you want to pursue. Think about the hobbies you think you might enjoy. This can be the basis for deciding what you want to continue doing. Don’t be afraid to try new things. As an added bonus, you might meet someone with similar interests while you are enjoying your newfound fun.
If you have children, you will have some free time to fill with activities when your children are with the other parent. Spend some of this time alone, so you can focus on yourself, which can help you to better define your plans for the future.