Christmas is just a few days away. For most people, this means having family time. Children who have divorced parents are probably looking forward to the holiday, but they might also have a bit of concern about how things will go. As a parent, you likely want your children to have good memories of the holidays during their childhood. The good news here is your attitude during this time of the year can have a profound impact on how your children view the celebrations.
One way that you can help them this holiday season is to allow the holiday celebration to span both homes. Your children are going to be excited about the gifts they get, the people they get to see and the experiences they have. You shouldn’t expect them to curtail that excitement when they are with you just because those things happened with your ex.
Another option is for you and your ex to have a joint celebration for the holiday. This enables your children and both parents to share in the holiday memories without having to worry about which ones will happen with which parent. Of course, you have to be able to get along to make this work.
Just like other parts of the year, the holidays are a time to focus on what your children need. Doing what is best for them and including them in the decisions that are appropriate for them to have a say in can help them immensely. Things might not be perfect, but you can make memories that your children can remember fondly in the years to come.