There are two fears that many spouses have once they decide to file for divorce. The first is that they are scared about what their post-divorce life will be like. The second is that they fear the financial expense of going through a divorce. Both of these things can be managed, but today we're going to focus on the latter: the cost of getting a divorce.
You've seen those lists of significant life stressors, right? We all expect death and loss to be on that list, but what about the good things too? Moving into your first house, having a child, landing that big promotion? If these life events can stress an individual to extremes, what do they do to a marriage?
Interstate child custody arrangements are very tricky, and often they come about as a result of a change in life circumstances. Divorced parents will keep living their lives, and those lives can change in an instant. Maybe a new job opportunity arises in a different state. Maybe a medical emergency requires a parent to move far away. Maybe a dramatic change in income means one of the parents must move away.
A critical issue in divorce nowadays is social media. What type of information does my wife have on her Facebook profile that pertains to our upcoming divorce? Does my husband have incriminating photos on his Instagram account? Has my former spouse used Twitter to publicly shame and insult me? These are important questions in a divorce that wouldn't make any sense 15 years ago.
"What's mine is yours" is a common phrase people use when referring to marital property. You might have said it yourself. Depending on your specific point of view in a divorce, the phrase can be either comforting or a bit frightening.
Going through a divorce is a difficult and complicated process that can drain the individual's mental and emotional energy. There is so much that goes into a divorce -- and we don't say that to discourage you from filing if you and your spouse have legitimate issues that can't be resolved. From child custody to spousal support; and property division to prenuptial agreements; and everything in between; it is crucial for someone involved in a divorce to know what they are getting into.