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Making a plan to make your co-parenting work

When you are co-parenting, you have to make sure that you are doing things in the way that is best for your child. You can't focus on you or your ex. This can be rather difficult but coming up with a plan might be helpful in these cases.

The game plan you have for co-parenting should be thought about carefully. It needs to include the goals that you have for the situation, but it also needs to outline how you plan to address potential issues. The good thing about the game plan is that you can work with your ex on some points and you can handle others on your own.

Child support 101: Understand the basics of these payments

Child support orders are the cornerstone of the financial agreement with your ex to provide support for your children. You have to make sure that you have thought about the terms of this order and understand what it all means.

Unlike many aspects of child custody, child support is usually governed by a government agency. This agency ensures that the child support payments come from the paying parent and are given to the recipient parent. When they aren't made as ordered, the paying parent can face some legal issues.

How well do you understand asset division in California divorces?

Many California residents considering divorce may get information from questionable sources. Even people you trust and respect may leave out critical details or exaggerate when describing the outcome of a divorce. That can leave you with very skewed ideas of what happens when the courts handle the division of your assets and possessions.

If you have a valid prenuptial agreement on record, that can help guide the process. Reviewing the document for any terms about asset division can help you understand what to expect. For people without a prenuptial agreement, the options are to either work out a solution with your spouse for an uncontested divorce or to ask the courts to intervene and make critical decisions for you. Knowing how California law works can help you understand likely outcomes.

Find your happy place during your divorce

The stress that comes with having to work through a divorce is often overwhelming. It is easy to become so consumed with the divorce that you forget about living your life. If you are going through a divorce, now is the time to find your happy place so that you can focus on that when things get stressful. We know that this won't be easy, but you will likely find that it helps you tremendously.

One thing that you have to remember when you are going through a divorce is that no matter how much you want to return to the previous way of life, there isn't any going back. Your life from this point on is going to be what you make it. You are no longer trying to balance your happiness with your spouse's happiness. You can do the things that will make you happy.

Divorce with children can be a challenge

One of the most traumatic things that can happen to children is learning that their parents are going to get a divorce. At that point, it is up to the parents to determine how they can make the transition easier on the child and what they can do to provide the stability and consistency that the children need.

Many parents just assume that their children will be fine during and after the divorce. This might not be the case. There is a chance that the children are just putting on a brave face to try to cope with the divorce. This can be a real problem because it might not give you the chance to try to rectify issues before they become too big.

Make sure your children are put first

Children count on their parents to meet their needs. This doesn't stop just because the parents decide to end their marriage. In fact, the needs of the children might increase when their parents are going through a divorce. This is because their entire world is sent into a tailspin and they might not know how to cope with that.

It is all too easy to focus on how difficult the divorce is on you; however, it is likely going to be even more difficult on your children. They are being placed in a scary situation where everything about their life is being changed. Since they don't have any say in what is going on, the situation can seem even worse for them.

Shared parenting tips you might consider using

Shared parenting is an arrangement that some parents rely on for child custody because it provides the children with the consistency that can help them thrive. Even though this is a choice, some parents find that it is one that is hard to live with. There are many ways that you can make shared parenting a little easier, so you have to try to find the solutions that work for your case.

One of the things that you might consider when you are using shared parenting is going through counseling. This might seem like a shot in the dark to some people, but it actually gives you a chance to discuss issues with an impartial third party who can help you work through the issues, as well as any underlying situations that might be making the arrangement more difficult.

Don't make child custody more difficult than it has to be

A child custody case requires making some difficult decisions. You have to think carefully about each one. Typically, to avoid a nasty court battle, all will need to be discussed with your ex during negotiations, mediation or similar proceedings so that you can come to a compromise about them.

There are several ways that you can try to make the child custody process easier, but there can be just as many that could make it more difficult. Below are some pointers to remember as you start working on these matters.

What are the penalties for late child support payments?

California takes child support payment enforcement seriously. The state requires parents to pay their court-ordered child support obligations on time, every time. Failure to do so can result in very serious criminal, financial and other consequences.

Here are the most noteworthy things that can happen when a California parent is late on paying child support:

  • Late fees: Late penalties, interest and other fees will accrue when parents don't pay their child support on time.
  • Frozen bank accounts: The government might choose to freeze an individual's bank accounts to recoup child support owed.
  • Driver's license suspension: Some parents who are late on child support could have their driving privileges revoked.
  • Getting reported to the credit bureau: Late payments will be reported to credit reporting bureaus and will have a negative effect on the payer's credit rating.
  • Criminal sanctions: Some parents could face criminal sanctions and wage garnishment.
  • Passport denial: Parents owing more than $2,500 will lose their passports.
  • Tax return interception: Tax returns, workers' compensation payments and disability benefits may also be intercepted to pay for back child support.

Finagling during the divorce process is crucial

Going through a divorce isn't a pleasant experience for anyone, especially if you find out about the divorce when you are served with paperwork. We understand that you might be emotional. You may be in shock. While it might be tempting to just sit back and hope that it all works out in the end, you need to stand up and take action. You can't let your ex railroad you into a shabby settlement.

We know that you might not have any idea about what type of property division matters you are going to have to go through. We can help you to evaluate the assets in question and formulate a plan that will get you a settlement that is in your best interests.

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