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Leaving a controlling spouse isn't always easy

Going through a divorce isn't on the top of anyone's list of fun things to do, but for some people, it is the only way to get free from a controlling partner. When you are going through a divorce from someone who is controlling, you might not be sure how to handle things on your own. Being held down by your partner for a long time is a difficult hurdle to overcome.

We understand that divorces come in all shapes and sizes. When you are in the midst of one, you should make sure that you are taking steps to protect your own interests. If you have finally taken the steps to regain your freedom and sense of identity, you need to be prepared to fight for what you need and want.

Protect your interests if you are divorcing a drug addict

When you married your spouse, you probably never imagined that you would have to think about divorce because of a drug addiction. For people who are married to addicts, there comes a point where the love that they once had becomes more of a feeling of pity. This coupled with the frustration of the addict pulling you down can be more than you can handle. Plus, if you have children, you need to think about them when you are trying to decide what to do.

One thing is certain in these situations -- you need to make sure that you protect your interests if you are heading toward a divorce. As sad as it might be, the addicted person might try to suck you dry before the divorce is finalized.

Critical points to remember about child support payments

Even if parents divorce, both parents are expected to help with the cost of raising the children. This is accomplished by ordering one parent to make payments to the other parent. These are known as child support payments. California, like other states, has a predetermined method for deciding which parent pays and how much each payment will be.

When it comes to child support, the stress often comes as a result of the financial impact of these payments. Here are some points to remember about child support payments:

Remember to keep your children at the heart of custody decisions

Matters related to child custody are close to the hearts of parents. These can be difficult to sort out when both parents aren't on the same page. It is necessary to work through these issues when you are in the midst of a child custody case.

The trouble that you might have with a child custody case is that you and your ex can't agree on what is going to happen. In these situations, a mediation session might be helpful. When you go through mediation, you and your ex work with a neutral third party to come up with the terms of a parenting agreement.

Co-parenting might provide your children with stability

Parenting after a divorce is something that is going to be a challenge at first. One of the parenting methods, co-parenting, takes work from you and your ex. You will have to work together to come up with a plan for raising the children.

If you are considering a co-parenting relationship, you have to find out what is going to work for your situation. Not all co-parenting relationships are the same, so don't think that you have to do the same thing as another person.

Forensic accountants play an important role in high asset divorce

When you have considerable assets, it might be difficult to keep an eye on all of them. Unfortunately, this might set you up for things to go amiss when you are in the midst of a divorce. One way that you can protect yourself is to hire a forensic accountant to help you sift through everything related to the assets to ensure that everything disclosed in the divorce is accurate and complete.

A forensic accountant is a person who can unearth hidden assets. These professionals are usually Certified Public Accountants (CPAs) who have worked to learn about investigating financial matters. They will use searches of public records to find out if there have been any suspicious transactions regarding assets.

Plan your child custody agreement carefully

Your child custody agreement is what is going to govern the relationship that you and your ex have after the divorce. This is something that must be planned carefully. In most cases, it is best for you and your ex to work together to come up with the terms of the agreement. This might not be easy, but it is usually the ideal way to handle the situation.

When you are dealing with your ex, you might be tempted to let all of your emotions out. This can work against you for a couple of different reasons. First, frustration and anger aren't conducive to negotiations. Second, they could put your ex in charge of your reactions, which isn't a good thing when you are trying to make these decisions.

Child support payments serve many purposes

Child support payments aren't often viewed as a privilege unless you have the best approach possible to having to support your child. Instead, many parents view this as an obligation. Some parents even view these payments as money that they are paying to the other parent instead of realizing that the money is being use to support your offspring.

It is easy to understand why parents view child support payments as money for the other parent. After all, the name of the payable to line is the other parent. The recipient parent is merely a vessel that is used to do what has to be done with the money. Children aren't responsible enough to pay their own bills so they count on the adults to do this for them.

Why do people still live together when they're separated?

In some cases, a couple knows the marriage is over. They haven't officially divorced, but they're separated. It's the first step toward ending things.

However, even when they're technically not thinking of themselves as a couple, they keep living together. This situation can grow complex and stressful, and it can have a serious impact on the legal side of the eventual divorce proceedings. So why do people do it?

Remember that your children are the focus of the custody case

Your children are likely one of the main focuses that you have in your life. As unpleasant as it is, you will have to think about not having them around all the time if you are divorcing their other parent. Child custody cases are often difficult for parents to cope with, but they can be a real nightmare for the children.

There are several things that you need to plan for if you are in the midst of a child custody battle. First, remember that the case is about your children, not you. There isn't a place for either parent to try to use the children as a way to get back at the other parent. Instead, the best interests of the children must be considered.

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