Coming up with the terms of a parenting plan isn't always easy. There might be some bad feeling between you and your ex because of the divorce. Even though the marriage didn't work out, you should think about how your ex is as a parent. You might realize that they do have your child's best interests at heart, which can help you to view them in a more positive light for the custody arrangement.
Once the parenting plan is set, you have the basic outline for the custody order. You should be prepared for times when things have to change a bit. When both parents remain flexible, the children can reap great benefits. Just remember that this has to be mutual. You can't be expected to give in all the time while your ex never makes any concessions.
We know that it might not be the easiest situation for you to manage, but having an open line of communication with your ex is important. This helps ensure that both parents know what is going on with their children. It also shows that the adults are still a parenting team, which may help your children to feel more secure, while also preventing "divide-and-conquer ploys from the kids.
As you and your co-parent rear your children, you'll likely realize that their needs change as they mature. Work with your ex to modify the parenting plan to take these changing needs into account. You might have to seek the court's assistance to come up with a plan that puts your children first. We can help you with this.