Going through a divorce has never been an easy process, but social media has made it an even more treacherous proposition. People, lulled into a false sense of security by likes and supportive comments, can end up saying things online that impact the outcome of their divorce in a negative manner.
For some people, avoiding social media altogether during divorce is the best option. For others, swearing off all references to their divorce is the easiest approach. If you decide to maintain your online presence during your divorce, you're going to need to avoid these three potential pitfalls on your page.
Avoid deprecating your ex online
You want the support and understanding of your followers and friends. It makes sense to share all the reasons why you left, to give the people you love an understanding of your side of the story. Unfortunately, that may fall into "defamation" territory, especially if you attack your ex's character or make allegations of illegal activity.
While you may need some way to let off pressure and stress, badmouthing someone online probably isn't the best way to do so. Even if you lock a post down to friends only privately or send your thoughts to someone in a private message, a screenshot is all it takes to get that information to your ex.
In this situation, it's better to be safe than sorry. Err on the side of caution when discussing your marriage while your divorce is in progress.
Don't humbly brag
Do you feel like divorce is the best thing that's happened to you? Are you making more money or falling in love with someone new? It's completely natural to want to share the good, as well as the bad, with the people you know online. However, even positive posts can cause you issues in court.
Bragging about how happy your life is now can antagonize your ex or make you seem callous and crass. Even if you set careful privacy preferences and exclude you ex from posts, remember that screenshot!
Take care with the selfies
It's great to show people that you're happy and thriving. If you've started dating since separating from your ex, you may want to share your new significant other with the world. Doing so could impact your divorce. After all, until the courts finalize your divorce, you are still married to your spouse. Showcasing the fact that you're dating now, even if your ex has a partner too, could lead to allegations of adultery.
Taking care to avoid incriminating yourself or harming the reputation of your ex during your divorce can lead to a fair outcome to your divorce. If you take care with your actions on social media now, you'll protect yourself from unnecessary problems later.