A child custody case requires making some difficult decisions. You have to think carefully about each one. Typically, to avoid a nasty court battle, all will need to be discussed with your ex during negotiations, mediation or similar proceedings so that you can come to a compromise about them.
There are several ways that you can try to make the child custody process easier, but there can be just as many that could make it more difficult. Below are some pointers to remember as you start working on these matters.
Get the facts straight
With every custodial decision, you need to make sure that you have the facts straight before you make accusations or try to work through a situation. This can help prevent a lot of misunderstandings and might make it easier for you and your ex to figure things out. Make sure that you have documentation for important matters so that you can refer to them as necessary. This might be helpful when dealing with education, medical and financial matters.
Communicate with your ex
It can be important to keep communication with your ex related to the custody honest, respectful and on topic at all times. Try not to let the past hinder your decisions now. When you speak to your ex, you might need to approach him or her with a business-like mentality. This may help you keep control of your words and the tone of your voice. Even if it is tempting, you shouldn’t try to irritate your ex. Working with your ex and being willing to communicate respectfully can show the court you are putting your children first.
Comply with any resulting court order
A court order that comes out of a custody agreement or custody decision lays out the terms for custody, visitation and other similar matters. You have to understand the terms and make sure you are complying with them as they are set up. This can mean not being late picking up or dropping off the children.
Work with your children
Going through some of the situations that occur in a child custody case can be challenging for the children. Take the time to listen to them so that you know what issues they are facing and how you can help the kids address them. Expressing what they are feeling might be difficult for some children, so you might have to help them figure out what they are trying convey to you.